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These items make great gifts to give out at a memorial service or celebration of life:

Heart forget-me-not seed cards
Personalized Heart Forget-me-not Seed Cards:
Plant the heart and forget-me-not flowers will grow.

Angel Pocket Charms
Angel Pewter Pocket Charms:
Finding the charm in your pocket will remind you of your loved one.

Forget-me-not seed pouches
Forget-me-not seed packets
: Blue velvet pouches contain vials of forget-me-not seeds to grow in honor of your loved one.

 

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Mary's Ideas:

Many grief counselors recommend letter writing as a way to begin to work through the grief process. It's becoming more popular for the host of the memorial service/life celebration to suggest attendees bring a letter to the departed. By writing their thoughts they will often feel like they have been able to document how they are feeling while contributing to the service.

For more ideas, download Mary's book: Planning a Celebration of Life

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Plantable memorial seed cards

Funeral Eulogies

Give a funeral eulogy they will remember

Quick tips for writing memorial speeches

Follow these tips for writing funeral eulogies:

- Write everything down so you don't ramble, and try to keep the eulogy under 10 minutes

- Stay away from potentially embarassing material (i.e. anything involving sex, drugs or troublesome in-laws)

- Share upbeat recollections; don't add to the sorrow and weeping

- Don't just talk about your relationship with the deceased; mention other friends and relatives

- Give a copy of the eulogy to someone else, who can take over if you break down

Step-by-step guide to writing a funeral eulogy

Step One: Gather information. Jot down as many personal notes about the deceased as possible. Look at photos. Flipping through photo albums may remind you of important qualities and memories of the person who died. Answer a few questions: What made your loved one truly happy? What inspired you to write this memorial speech? What were your loved one’s passions? What will you remember most about this person? Keep in mind that a eulogy is not a biography but more your personal thoughts and remembrances from your point of view. You may want to ask co-workers, friends and others for their stories and memories. You should see some repetition in your notes and this will lead to the main theme.

Step Two: Begin to organize your content. Outline the eulogy in these steps:
I. A beginning to establish your theme.
II. A middle section to build on your theme with personal stories, information, quotes, comments, sayings, poems and other content. This information should make up 90% of the eulogy.
III. A short conclusion to summarize your thoughts and restate your theme.

Step Three: Work first on the middle section (Part II). Once you have this part the beginning and summary will be easy. Develop the outline by grouping similar themes from your notes from Step 1. For example, you might want to gather all the achievements together. Merge the comments about the deceased’s philosophy of life.

Step Four: Organize the conclusion (Part III). A conclusion reminds the listeners of the theme and imprints the strong feeling you have about the loss. The key is to conclude effectively and quickly. Here is an example:
“We will all miss Jackie’s sense of humor, her talent for knowing what is really important in life and her famous chocolate chip cookies” (a little humor doesn’t hurt as long as it’s not offensive to anyone).
“Her example lives as an inspiration for all of us to follow.”

Step Five: Write the beginning of the funeral eulogy (Part 1). Memorial speeches usually start with an attention getter. It will set the theme and can be in the form of a short story, a poem, a saying, lyrics to a song. It will introduce the goal and theme you used when you began the process.

Step Six: Polish it up. Your best bet is to walk away from it for a few hours or overnight if possible. Work on it so it sounds like a conversation. You want to talk to the audience as naturally as possible.

Key tips: Keep it short, 4-8 minutes long, 3-7 typed pages.
Type it out using 14 pt type so it’s easy to read.
Vary sentence length.
Number the pages.
Practice the eulogy aloud and time yourself.
Read it to friends and family and get their feedback. Edit where necessary.
Keep the content in good taste and keep it positive.

Step Seven: Delivering the funeral eulogy.
While normally speakers do not read word-for-word, because you are more than likely going to be emotional, don’t be afraid to read word for word. This way you won’t leave out any key points you or others wanted said.
If making eye contact with members of the audience will make you emotional, either try and keep your eyes on the page or look just over the top of the audience to the back of the room.
Feel free to pause, take a deep breath and drink some water. Everyone will understand. They are emotionally distraught also.
Speak as naturally as you can just as if you were telling someone about your loved one. Speak up. It’s very important that you speak clearly and loudly so that everyone can hear you.
Keep the written speech as a memento. You can add it to your memento chest and share it with others who may want a copy.

By following these steps, writing and delivering a funeral eulogy will become less stressful and more of a healing process. Knowing what to say at a memorial service is a matter of preparation and planning.

See a free sample of a eulogy here from a reader who followed these steps, and now shares the funeral speech he wrote for a co-worker. Sample eulogy



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Samples of eulogies

Read these sample eulogies to find out what to say at a memorial service:

 

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Lightbulb IDEA - Get a newspaper from the day that your loved one was born, copy the front page and distribute it at the service. You can also add their name to the headline. Ideally, weave your eulogy around the events of the day that they were born. Go to www.newspaper-headlines.com or call 877-860-8231.


IDEA - Find out the day that your loved one was born and use the following as a starter to your eulogy:

Monday's child is...
fair of face,
Tuesday's child is...
full of grace,
Wednesday's child is...
filled with woe,
Thursday's child...
has far to go,
Friday's child is...
loving and giving,
Saturday's child...
has to work for a living,
But the child that is born
on the Sabbath day is...
bonnie and blythe
and good and gay.

You can find "Day you were born" calculators via google.com.