Did you know that these tokens of remembrance are popular at a scattering service?
Hand out these gifts to guests at the ceremony. They will serve as a memorial to your loved one.
Casting is a way of scattering
where the remains are tossed into the wind. As I mentioned previously,
you will want to check the direction of the wind and cast the remains
downwind. Most of the remains will fall to the ground and some of the
lighter particles will blow in the wind forming a whitish-grey cloud.
One person in the group may
cast the remains or scatter some and hand the container to the next person
so everyone has a chance to ceremonially cast the remains. Another option
is people are given paper cups or casting cups and they cast simultaneously
in a sort of toasting gesture.
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Trenching is digging
a hole or trench in the ground or sand and the remains are placed into
the trench. The remains can be placed directly into the trench or placed
in a biodegradable urn or bag. At the end of the ceremony survivors often
rake over the trench. A deceased name can bedrawn in the dirt or sand-
perhaps inside of a heart. The remains could also be placed inside this
name and heart. You may consider taking a photo of this for a memory book.
If done at the beach, it can be timed that the tide comes in and ceremoniously
washes it out to sea. Family and friends may want to join hands and form
a circle. If not too windy, candles may also form a circle around the
site. The candles are then given to each person as a keepsake.
Raking involves pouring the
cremated remains from an urn evenly on loose soil and then raking them
into the ground at the conclusion of the ceremony. It is important to
keep the urn close to the ground when pouring out the remains due to wind.
Survivors may wish to take turns raking the remains back into the earth.
If you choose to do this at a scattering garden at a cemetery, this is
how they will perform the scattering.
This is done either
at a “Green Cemetery” or at a traditional cemetery. Often
cemeteries will allow you to place a biodegradable bag or biodegradable
urn on top of a gravesite or a family member as long as it is buried.
Obviously, you will want to check with the cemetery and see what their
Water scattering involves
placing the remains into a body of water. A biodegradable bag or urn is
recommended. This is most often when cremated remains can blow back into
a person’s face or get washed up onto the side of the boat. Both
experiences can be traumatic and not the everlasting peaceful memory you
envisioned. If you search on the internet or in the phone book you can
find people that have boats and are experienced. There are urns on the
market designed to gently float away and then quickly biodegrade into
the water. Many people throw rose petals or flowers into the water after
the urn. If the remains are in a biodegradable bag they may sink so you
also may wish to throw a wreath of flowers into the water and watch the
wreath drift away.
A customer wrote to tell us of her experience with our heart biodegradable urn:
wanted to let you know that the urn was just beautiful.
Sandy's husband, daughter, sister, best friends - everyone just loved
it. And the event went off almost exactly as planned (these things are
never perfect). Since that time, I feel I have slowly started to heal.
Being able to let go of her ashes exactly how she wanted, and in such
a beautiful way was a milestone. You were one of the ones who made it
possible, and I thank you again from the bottom of my heart.
I am attaching a picture of the urn, just after we placed it in the
ocean, floating in the seagrass surrounded by the rose petals we also
scattered. When I try to remind myself of the good things in her
tragically short and very unhappy life, this is one of the pictures I
hold dear. Please feel free to post it on your web site, and perhaps
others will be able to benefit from knowing that letting go can be
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Air scattering is best performed
by professional pilots and air services. The airplanes are specially designed
to handle the cremated remains. Some professionals will arrange for family
and friends to be on the ground watching as the plane flies over and a
plume of remains can be seen from the ground. If survivors are not present,
the service will provide the specific time and date of the aerial scattering.
Often it can be arranged that close family and friends fly along.
While scattering cremated
remains can be emotionally very difficult, hopefully by knowing your options
and being informed it will make a difficult time a little easier.
As you fulfill your
loved one’s wishes to be cremated and scattered at sea, you may
want to have close friends and family who are attending the scattering
each read a poem or verse.
Perhaps you may want
to open the ceremony with something like, “The ceremony at sea for
our beloved Mother is the perfect place for setting her free, we are comforted
to know that she is finally home among loved ones.”
You would then have each family
member read the poem that you have given to them.
Some ideas are:
Alone I will not be
my comfort will come from the sea.
The stillness of clam waves will gently drift by
I will be as one with the sea.
When the sun sets on the ocean blue,
remember me as I will always remember you.
As the sun rises...go live life as full as can be
Apart...you and me...but a peace for I am free
My life is ended here at peace with the sea.
The Lord has called me home and I am free
to go peacefully.
Don't mourn my passing as I am now in the presence of the Glory of God,
His bright love is abundant and his promises are real.
I will wait here for you dear ones in Jesus’ arms and watch over
you with him until you also come home.
Be comforted loved ones.
"I shall go the way of the open sea, To the Lands before you came,
And the cool ocean breezes shall blow from me, The memory of your name"
A Parable of Immortality
I am standing upon
A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts
for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch until at last she hangs like a speck of white cloud
Just where the sea and the sky come to mingle with each other.
Then someone says, "There she goes!"
Gone from my sight, that is all.
She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left
And just as able to bear her load of living freight to the place of destination.
Her diminished size is in me, not in her.
And just at the moment when someone at my side says, "There she goes"
There are other eyes watching her coming
And their voices ready to take up the glad shouts,
"Here she comes!"
By Henry Van Dyke
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In closing, the scattering at sea ceremony is about saying goodbye and
creating an everlasting memory of setting your loved one free.
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